Oct 19 2011
Why Ask?
Why was this website necessary? Simple. I have spent my life being the sounding board for everyone around me and anyone that I came in contact with, no matter if it was at work, in church, at a football game, in the hospital or standing in line at the grocery store. It seemed as though people were always drawn towards me and felt very comfortable in sharing their lives with me. So through seemingly superficial conversations with these individuals, I was able to get an understanding of them. Then my God-given intuition would lead me to identifying their real underlying concerns and allow me to offer a sound solution out of love. And most of the time the solution was something that they never even considered or thought could be possible.
So why not share this with the world? You ask, I answer. Now of course I can answer general questions like, “why is the sky blue?” etc. but I am sure you can find much more detailed answers to those questions by simply typing them into a search engine like the one on my page. Most likely, that is what I would do anyway. But really, I am here to help on those questions that are not that simple. Maybe you need help reconciling with someone; maybe you have a relationship situation and need a specific answer; or maybe you need to know how to get along with a co-worker that spends eight hours a day finding new ways to get under your skin. It could be a business scenario, an upcoming reunion, travel planning, hobby seeking, tips on health eating or help with renewing your mind towards exercising or in other areas. No matter what realm your question falls under, if you want help, then I am willing to help. Just Ask
Now onto some housekeeping:
All of the information that you post on this website will be seen by anyone that logs on, so avoid posting any personal information about yourself or others that you don’t want shared. Also, with that in mind, please keep your posts G-rated. If you have a specific situation that needs some adult attention, please post it under the “adults only” category and it will be addressed there. If perchance, you forget to post it there, your post will be moved to the “adults only” category, so be sure to look for a response there.
Now, this is the part wherein I tell you that I am not a lawyer, not a licensed financial advisor, not a licensed financial planner, not a licensed counselor of any sort, not a judge, not a priest, not a rabbi, not an actor, not a singer, not a dancer, etc. and my advice should not be considered as a replacement for seeking one of those wonderful licensed professionals. All the advice that I will offer you is simply that, advice, from my great intuition. You have to decide whether you are willing to apply it to your life to see the change that you desire. Consider me like your big sister, in whom you feel comfortable talking to and spending time with because you know that no matter what you say I will not judge you nor criticize you and we will get along just fine.
I look forward to getting to know you and helping out where I can.
We are ITT, In This Together
Be Blessed
HOPEFULLY U CAN HELP US WITH THIS BIG PROBLEM WE HAVE WITH THE SOCIAL SECURITY ADMINISTRATION.MY BHUSBAND AND I DID NOT GET BMARRIED TILL 6/23/2011.THE SOCIAL SECURITY ADM. SAID WE HAD A BACK PAY OF OVER 19 THOUSAND DOLLARS.WE WAITTED OVER 90 DAYS.WE HAD A LAWYER AND HE GOT PAID.WE INCWIRED ABOUT MY HUSBANDS BACK PAY AND THERE ANSWER WAS BECAUSE I DRAWED SSI BEFORE WE WHERE EVEN MARRIED.I MET MY HUSBAND WAY BEFORE WE EVEN CONTIPLATED GETTING MARRIED.TO BE A BIT PERSONAL ON MY PART.I WASNT EVEN ABLE TO HAVE RELATIONS.IVE HAD TWO BACK SURGERYS AND GETTING BETTER WAS MORE IMPORTANT THAN SEX.THEY CUT OFF MY SSI WELL BEFORE MY HUSBSND RECIEVED HIS FIRST CHECK.WHICH IS ONLY $224.DOLLARS.MY HUSBAND RECIEVED AROUND$5,000.AND SAID HE IS NOT ENTITLED TO ANYMORE.I DO NOT NOR HE UNDERSTANDS.PLEASE ENLITE ME.
MUCH THANKS RACHELLE&ROBERT
MALLONEE
WHAT IS THE BEST WAY ,OR A FEW WAYS ,TO BE IN THE NOW MOMENT , JOAN
Rachelle –
I am not getting a clear understanding on your situation. What is SSA claiming the arrears are for? What time period? Was it an overpayment? What was the result with the attorney? Is the disability permanent or temporary?
Please provide some more details. Thanks
Joan –
the best way to live in the “here and now” is to start by identifying your thoughts that are distracting you and then dealing with them. You have to come to a place of peace in your life in order to be comfortable with living in the now moment. This is what I mean:
some people spend a considerable portion of their lives in a mental trap between their past mistakes and/or regrets on one side and their anxieties and worries about the future on the other. So they live their present day to day life on somewhat of a mental teeter totter leaning to one side or the other at any given moment and never truly feeling balanced and secure in who they are; much less in who’s they are. And never really experiencing a place of rest, a sense of calmness in their spirit, or a reassurance in their decisions.
How do we overcome our past and future and enjoy our present? Let’s start by looking into the Word of God for some spiritual guidance and then we will turn it into an everyday practice.
Overcome Your Past:
2 Corinthians 5:17-19 KJV speaks of being a new creature in Christ: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 19 reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation. Meaning that no matter what mistakes we have made in the past, they have been totally forgiven when we decided to follow God. Even though God has completely forgiven us, It is only through faith that we can truly forgive ourselves of our past mistakes and decisions. You have to believe that you have been forgiven even if your present situation does not depict it and even if you don’t FEEL it and soon enough your present situation WILL align with the Word of God. Should you be holding any grudges against anyone else, you must release tham also. Forgive them even though they didn’t ask for it because in you forgiving them, you are setting yourself free from that situation. By doing this, you have just released your hold on the past.
Overcome Your Future:
Luke 12:22-32 NIV says, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. 25 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life? 26 Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest? 31 But seek his kingdom and these things will be given to you as well.
Matthew 6:34 NIV says, take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. This passage is referring to those things of tomorrow that concern you today. Why spend your present worrying about tomorrow? Many times we let the details of what we think we ought to be doing distract us from actually just stepping out on faith and doing them. We have to operate in faith. You may ask, “how do I grow my faith?” By doing, moving forward, stepping out anyway even if you don’t fully believe you can succeed and in doing so you are giving God the opportunity to meet you at the point of your need. Philippians 4:19 But my God shall supply all your needs.
1 Peter 5:6-7 NIV says to humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God. Casting all your care upon him; for he cares for you.
It is saying for you to live your life with the understanding and acceptance that God is in control and allowing Him to take care of all the details. Here is the tricky part, don’t try to rationalize this in your own mind. Why? Because you can’t. God’s ways are far more advanced than our ways and God’s thoughts are much more advanced than our thoughts. Isaiah 55:9 KJV So we are incapable of working out what comes next so why bother to spend the time trying. It only leads us to a point of frustration, anxiety and indecisiveness. Just make up your mind to trust God to take care of you everyday and when He sees that you have finally handed Him the reigns, then He will rein in your life.
Everyday Practice:
So what do I do right now ? Allow yourself to forgive and be forgiven of everything in your past. Cast all your cares on God by sharing all of your concerns with Him. Trust God to take care of you today, tomorrow and forever through every situation that may arise. Psalm 55:22 And trust God to direct your path and lead you to your destiny.
Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path.” Meaning that no matter what may present itself, give God the opportunity to handle it. You may say, “well, I need this dealt with right now.” My response would be, what does God’s Word say about that situation? Are you operating in God’s Love? Are you responding with God’s Love? Are you using wisdom? Are you thinking, “what would please God in this situation?” If so, then act because you are operating in God’s Love and He will meet you at your point of need; for His grace and mercies are new every day. But if you know deep down that you are acting out of your own desires for your life or to please others then don’t go there because in the end you will not have peace in the matter anyway. “Think fast but act slow”.
After you have put these steps into practice, you will find that the weight has been lifted from your shoulders and now you can truly enjoy your day to day life without all the baggage. You will begin to see each day as a gift and enjoy just living it out moment by moment.
Hi , I am just wondering if I can still get pragnant . My came inside me 4/5days before my ovulation.
Anytime you have unprotected sex there is a chance that you may become pregnant. Science has done the best it can by giving us the guidelines of when ovulation occurs in relation to your last period and when it is more likely for you to conceive. But these are only guidelines. Your body may produce an egg earlier during your cycle than the normal time frame based on several factors both environmental and emotional. So if you are practicing unprotected sex and don’t intend on becoming pregnant then you need to use some form of protection.
On a side note, in your question above you didn’t say whether this was a boyfriend or husband or if you wanted to be pregnant. So I am basing this response entirely on the information that was provided.
Be Blessed
Hi,
I’m 8weeks pregnant and I was diagnosed to have uterine fibroid.
Also I noticed dark red spotting and tiny lumps. Should I be scared and is there any medication to shrink or possibly get rid of the fibroids?
Regards
Ifeoma,
whenever I am asked a specific medical question, I first advise that you discuss this with your doctor and if you do not have one then I try to lead you to a source that can provide you with detailed information. This is the best link that I have found:
http://www.womenshealth.gov/publications/our-publications/fact-sheet/uterine-fibroids.cfm
We will be praying for you. Please pray for yourself also. And above all, trust that God’s perfect will for your situation will be the outcome of it.
Be Blessed,
Big Sis